How to Keep the House Clean || Cleaning With Toddlers & Babies
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Because motherhood is messy and your cleaning system should be too.
Ah! Cleaning with toddlers. And maybe a small baby on your hip as well. It’s one of the great challenges of modern motherhood and arguably one of the biggest mental drains on women today. Luckily, this post will give you a few hacks to help make your life easier you’re your home happier without you losing the plot completely.
But first, how did we get here? There’s always that comparison with some Insta-perfect home or interior design magazine… forgetting that the Insta-perfect home probably had a very sharp and specific photo angle so you wouldn’t see the mess 10cm to the left or right and the photoshoot had an army of interior designers.
We also forget though, that for millennia, women were never meant to mother and keep house and cook on our own. We’ve lost the village of grannies, aunties and ladies next door who’d help keep us and our homes in order.
So that’s not the reality for most women. Let me paint you a picture that you’ll probably find very familiar.
The Reality of Cleaning With Toddlers
Imagine: it’s four o’clock. How did that happen? This morning you had a free day, ambitious plans to tidy and clean the WHOLE house but then a nap was lost and the baby had a nappy explosion and a whole heap of other minor things that are just part of motherhood and well… here we are.
You’re in the thick of life with a toddler and a new baby, and you are amazing and precious. This season is beautiful and hard, and expecting yourself to have a spotless house is like expecting to run a marathon while carrying a puppy and juggling grapes. With one hand.
So let’s talk about what’s actually doable and how to keep your home sort of clean in a way that works for real, exhausted mums.
Lower the Bar. And Then Lower It Again
First things first: the gold-standard “clean house” ideal? Remember, that was probably invented by someone with no children, too much free time and a very regular cleaning lady. You are not failing. You are mothering, the most important of callings upon which entire civilisations are built.
The truth is you don’t need your whole house to sparkle all at once. You just need a few surfaces wiped, some clear floor space, and enough calm to spot a Lego brick before it finds your foot.
So here’s your new mantra; clean just a bit, just often enough, and let that be enough.
Keep a Cleaning Basket in Every Room
This tip is so simple it’s almost ridiculous but it’s game-changing.
Instead of having one central cleaning cupboard with all the kit (that you never reach because it’s three rooms away or downstairs), set up mini cleaning baskets in each main area of the house. Pop a bigger one in the bathrooms and toilets with sponges, bleaches and relevant cleaning sprays.
Meanwhile, keep those machine washable E Cloths (they work by some clever sort of science that I don’t understand and only need water) and spray bottles with water in the bedroom cupboards. Same in the living spaces and maybe put away (for a couple of years) the more breakable and dust-attracting ornaments.
That way, when you spot the chaos whilst supervising bath time or feeding the baby on the sofa, you can quickly wipe and go without abandoning the room or the child.
Because once you leave the room?
Game over. You’re not coming back. And you know it.
Clean in Mini Moments
Forget the dream of “doing the whole house on a Saturday morning.” This season doesn’t do big chunks of time. Instead, think of cleaning with a toddler as a bonus to everything else you’re already doing like narrating your every move to your little one, fetching snacks, explaining for the tenth time why one doesn’t lick the bin.
If your toddler is in the bath, use that time to wipe the sink. If you’ve got two minutes in the bedroom before bedtime stories, dust the windowsill. These tiny wins add up, and they keep you from drowning in the bigger mess later.
Even mopping around a pile of shoes while wearing your wellies absolutely counts. One mum I follow on Instagram, MessyHomeMom, created a reel of herself doing this and honestly, it was a revelation. After a lifetime of Type A “Go Big Or Go Home” attitude to most things, including homemaking with newborns and toddlers, this was a real relief and amazing permission to start living life in small, imperfect habits that build up.
Let Your Toddler “Help”. Yes, Really
Another concern I have come across is mums who are worried that cleaning takes them away from quality time with their toddler. So combine the two. Set your little one up with their own tiny cleaning kit:
· A spray bottle filled with water
· A small cloth or dusting glove
· A toddler-sized dustpan and brush
Let them “help” you clean while you chat or sing together. Not only does it give you ten precious minutes of focus but it also shows them that caring for a home is a family affair. One day, they’ll just grab a cloth and get on with it, and you’ll think: I did that.
Make It Easy to Start
Hot Take: if the hoover needs plugging in, untangling, and then hauling across the house, cleaning with a toddler or even without is just not going to happen. Not when someone’s napping and someone else is colouring the walls (I write this having just spotted a smiley face in crayon in a corner of the living room wall. Hmmm).
If you can manage it, invest in a cordless vacuum that you can grab and go. Look for something bagless, rechargeable, and quick to empty. It’s one of those tools that turns a five-minute window into actual progress and that’s worth its weight gold in this season.
Likewise, keep bin bags in every basket. See something broken, outgrown, or just really annoying? Toss it without a second thought. No ceremony, no overthinking. Just one small action that makes your space feel calmer.
You’re Doing So Well, Mama
A clean-ish house with toddlers and a baby is not a sign of failure or success. It’s a work of survival art. Your job is not to clean; your job is to mother. Cleaning and creating moments of order just helps you breathe a little easier along the way.
So lower the bar. Wipe what you can. Laugh at the mess. And know that even if the days feel long, this phase of motherhood is really oh, so short.
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